March, 2010

This one is for the brothas…

There are some universal truths that women believe all men should—but don’t—understand. This is a  list of 10 things that women wish men knew and would incorporate into their relationship regularly. There are many more so feel free ladies to add on in the comments.And men, take notes:

1.Listen up!

We like when you listen to us when we are talking. Really listen. Not that pseudo listening. The kind where you are trying to listen to us while playing a video game or watching basketball. Sometimes we want all of your attention. Sometimes, we want you to look at us when we are speaking and digest all of what we are saying. One word at a time. Women often talk about, yes, our “feelings.” This doesn’t mean we’ll break down in hysterics all the time (in fact probably never). It simply means that we like to vent and rant about problems we have and people we hate, etc. Just listen carefully, agree and sympathize with us in the right places, and it least TRY to look like you care. We don’t expect you to solve our problems, which is a typically male-oriented way of thinking. Just talking about our problems us makes us feel better, even if we’re not about to solve them anytime soon. Listen and be supportive, that’s all we ask.

2. Be  romantic once in a while.

It doesn’t have to be much. No women can resits a bit of romance, buying us flowers or a box of Chocolate,waking us up with breakfast in bed or a loving text message or note now and then won’t kill you.

3. We Like When You Tell Us How Pretty We Are

We want to feel beautiful even when our outside appearance does not realistically match the definition. It is still wonderful when the man we love and that loves us, can say with honesty and adoration in his eyes, that despite how crappy we feel, we are still beautiful to him.

3. Don’t try to be a “playa”

Most women hate men who try far too hard to look “cool” or try to pick up as many women as they possibly can. To you it may be a fun ego boost, but to us it’s annoying and disappointing. We don’t want a “playa,” we want a solid and dependable man (with just a hint of mystery) who is faithful and will stick with us no matter what, not hit on anything in a skirt. We prefer to be respected rather than be hit on relentlessly, but of course, don’t treat us like your mother!

4. Money (hardly ever) changes everything

We may expect for you to pay for our dinner or movie ticket on the first date and perhaps after that, but we don’t expect you to fork over loads of cash and face bankruptcy just to take us out on a date. We don’t expect luxury sports cars, diamond rings or gourmet dinners. We are people too who have to work for our money, and we know you’re not made of cash. So don’t feel pressured to spend loads of cash on us. Most women are modern thinkers who don’t mind splitting the cheque or paying for their own dinner if you’re strapped for cash. The point? You don’t have to be loaded to impress us.Don’t apply to Gold-Diggers!!!

5.Not calling when you said you’d call is the kiss of death

Unless you’ve got a really good excuse, and call soon afterwards to apologize, you’ve got problems. A guy who says he’ll call you “tomorrow” and doesn’t call for 6 days or something has already been written off. Sure, we all get busy and have lives, but if you’re really interested in someone but swamped, take 5 minutes, call, let her know you’re slammed at work or whatever, but that you wanted to say hi. She’ll appreciate it.

6. Screw the 3-day rule

The consensus generally is you must wait three days after the first date to call so as not to appear desperate. This is a stupid, petty rule that has no foundation to support itself. Granted, you probably shouldn’t call an hour after the date after the person just gotten home, but you certainly don’t have to wait three days! Calling the next day is perfectly fine, if you got the impression during the date that she was into you and there was some real chemistry there. Chances are, if she agreed to go on a date with you she’ll want to kiss you, hug you, hold hands, and generally hear from you again. There’s nothing desperate about calling the next day. If you wait 3 days you end up wrestling with yourself over whether or not you should call, and we doubt if you were genuinely interested. If you want to call someone, just do it!

7. Don’t lie. EVER.

Nothing is more unappealing or hurtful than a guy who lies. It makes us feel like you don’t respect or care for us enough to tell us the truth. No matter how bad the truth might hurt us, we still want to hear it. We don’t want to be ignorant and live in bliss, we want to know that you can come to us and be honest when things turn sour. Trust, honesty, and respect are key in any successful relationship, and without those elements, it doesn’t matter how hot you are, we WILL leave.

8.  Holidays and anniversaries are a big Deal

They might not seem like a big deal to you, but they are to us.  Even if we say we don’t want something for Valentine’s Day, we want something. It isn’t the “thing” we care about; it is the fact that you are thinking about us. So think about us, dammit. Never forget our Birthday!!!

9. Pay attention.

We like to give clues. “Susie and Bob tried a great new restaurant” means “Why don’t you ever take us anywhere nice?”

10.We’re terrified of meeting your mother

Kwaito sexiest star Kabelo Mabalane is set to take SA’s television by storm!!!

Kabelo, also known as Bouga Luv, has recently signed with SABC2 to host a variety sport and lifestyle talk show Sportnite . The show will debut on april 9 this year and will be shown on Fridays at 9.30pm.

The show aims to inspire and motivate viewers with topical sports debates and relevant features by covering the results of the week, giving the behind-the-scenes of the sporting world and focusing on coming matches from soccer rugby and cricket to athletics.

We can’t wait to watch it…

Contrary to a report from cheesy blog MediaTakeout  earlier this week, the R&B diva is not expecting her first child with husband, Jay-Z. The two have been together since 2002, and got married in secret in April 2008.

The website reported that it had a legit source, who spilled that the star was with child. Her publicist, Alan Nierob, initially refused to comment on the reports saying, “We don’t respond to private-matter enquiries.” Of course that was as good as a confirmation in our books.

But a rep from her record company, Sony, has come forward and told Rolling Stone that the report is simply “untrue.”

Rihanna dazzled the packed house at UCLA’s Pauley Pavilion in Los Angeles on Saturday (March 27).

The “Umbrella” singing beauty sported a sexy hot pink and black ensemble as she took part in the Nickelodeon Kid’s Choice Awards festivities.
During her turn onstage, Rihanna opted to treat the crowd to a high-energy performance of a medley of her hits including “Hard,” “Rude Boy” and “Don’t Stop The Music”.

Earlier in the evening, the Barbadian beauty walked the orange carpet clad in a light peach Christian Dior dress.

If only she could sing!!!

South African Billionaire Robert Gumede celebrated with his beautiful bride Dr Portia Mkhize who pulled up in a black Rolls-Royce to the sound of Ave Maria, delivered by the 100-strong KwaZulu-Natal Philharmonic Orchestra, which had been flown in for the occasion.

About 2500 wealthy guests, some from overseas, were on hand in the Mpumalanga town of Nelspruit, where Gumede started his working life as a golf caddie when he was seven. The 3 Day affair began at lunchtime , when the two said their “I do’s” in a romantic setting at the Nelspruit Golf Club.

An elegant Mkhize, dressed in a fitted silk-duchess gown by Gavin Rajah, was walked down the aisle by dad Selby Mkhize. Her dress was made of fabric imported from Paris and had a 6m train decorated with hand-beaded roses, Mkhize’s favourite flower.

Seated on the 10th and 18th fairways, on the Robert Gumede (back) nine, guests beat the blistering heat during the two-hour ceremony under the shade of pretty little white umbrellas. They were treated to lunch served in over a dozen marquees, which was followed by a gala dinner last night.

Entertainment included an orchestra conducted by Grammy Award-winning Chinese artist Muhai Tang – a gift to the pair from a guest. Bongani Tembe, a graduate of New York’s Juilliard School and the artistic director of the orchestra, and his wife, Bukhosini, both performed. Pastor Mxolisi Luphoko, who conducted the ceremony, told the couple that they are “not in the marriage to sabotage each other.Marriage must be a win-win situation.

” To pull off the “cream, gold and vermillion” themed wedding, the couple had hired Rajah as their creative director. His brief was “to go quite big”. Rajah, who spent a year planning the wedding, said: “Robert is a man of largesse.

He doesn’t think in small measures.” The eight-tier wedding cake by Cake Bread, a boutique bakery, was a delight to the eye. For this, Rajah worked with a team whose brief was to be inspired by the bride’s “love of roses and interesting filigree detail”. National Police Commissioner Bheki Cele, dressed in dark-brown suit and cream hat “from (Galeries) Lafayette in Paris”, said: “The wedding has exceeded all my expectations.”

TV personality Gerry Rantseli was spotted, along with businesswoman Basetsana Kumalo and her husband, Romeo.Among the friends who flew in from abroad was US R&B singer Kenny Lattimore.

Other guests included ANC treasurer-general Mathews Phosa, minister in the presidency Collins Chabane, South Africa’s UK high commissioner Zola Skweyiya, captains of industry such as Sandile Zungu, Vivian and Sirisha Reddy and Gloria Serobe, and singing star and businesswoman Yvonne Chaka Chaka. ANC Youth League president Julius Malema arrived after 3pm on Saturday afternoon. He bought Mkhize a BMW X6 worth about R1-million, and after the party the couple headed off to Beijing.

Total cost: R50 million ($ 6.7 miilion)